Holder Hender (Holding Hands)
If you have been reading my recent blog posts, you’ve probably noticed the emphasis on kindness. This post is no different. Perhaps it is my way of focusing on goodness when there is so much chaos in the world.
I wanted to share another sweet aspect that I’ve noticed while living in Norway - holding hands. Yes, people hold hands in the United States and in all other countries I’ve visited. However, it is different in Norway. The practice is much more commonplace.
Holding hands in Oslo.
As an American, it appears that Norwegians tend to value privacy and space, and public displays of affection are kept to a minimum. You might witness a quick kiss between couples or a hug between friends, but more overt expressions of affection are frowned upon. This all reflects the emphasis on respect for others; respect the space of others and don’t do anything that would draw attention to yourself or make others uncomfortable.
Holding hands while walking on slippery sidewalks in Oslo.
Holding hands is a quiet but strong expression of committed couples. When I first arrived in Norway, the days were long, so people were often outside walking with their children, partners, and pets. Some people walked quickly through the busy streets and park paths, while couples slowly strolled along the route. Usually, the couples were holding hands.
Holding hands on a walking trail in Norway.
For children, it is common to hold hands with an adult, sibling, or friend for safety. When I asked 10th graders about the practice of holding hands, they looked at me quizzically and couldn’t understand why I thought it was a big deal. They explained to me that they were trained to hold hands from a young age, by their parents and teachers. To them, holding hands was a quotidian action.
Holding hands in the rain.
However, when two people who are dating hold hands in public, it is a nonverbal announcement of their commitment to one another. For veteran couples, holding hands is simple reminder of their loving relationship. In Norway, couples of every age, in every season, and every place (e.g., trains, buses, shopping centers, hiking trails) can be spotted holding hands.
Holding hands in Lillehammer.
Once you notice the common practice of holding hands, you will see it wherever you go – on the busy sidewalks and along the quiet forest paths. Children hold hands with their parents, siblings hold hands, friends hold hands, and couples hold hands. Holding hands is a quiet expression of security and affection in a country that is indeed safe and supportive.
Holding hands in Norway.
